How to Be a #Boss
What does it mean to be a boss?
Well, the conventional definition states that a boss is a person in charge of a worker or organization. You know, the one who tells you what to do. Pretty straightforward, right?
Well, I’m referring to something a little more than that, on a higher level. A way of life, if you will. To be a boss is to embrace a certain attitude, to demand attention and inspire others with confidence. A boss is powerful but respectful, tough but kind.
A boss is a leader.
Know Your Worth
The first thing you need to consider when pursuing the #bosslife, is your worth. Recognizing your value is a fundamental element to ensuring your success. In order for other people to respect you and value your skills and services; you have to respect yourself. Remember, no one will ever have the exact same perspective on a situation or problem as you do. That alone is an asset, unique to you and only you. Take yourself seriously and even look at yourself through rose tinted glasses for a while. Build yourself up and make yourself strong. Don’t let anyone take you for granted and don’t give them a reason to. As long as you respect yourself and recognize your worth, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a boss.
Work, Work, Work, Work, Work, Work
Yes, Rihanna knows best. If you want to succeed at anything, you’re going to have to work for it. Really work for it. This means putting in the hours. I’m talking 8am starts. I’m talking sleeves rolled up, head screwed on. And it’s not always going to be easy – the best things never are. No matter how passionate you are about what you’re doing, there will be days when you absolutely hate it, days you’ll want to quit, throw in the towel and give up. But these are the most critical periods, the making of you. Where we separate the men from the boys and the women from the girls. This is when you work. And trust me it will be worth it.
Take a Break
It doesn’t matter how hard you work if you don’t know when to take a break. Because eventually you’ll burn out or put yourself at risk for stress related mental illness, like depression or anxiety. Overworking yourself can also have a profoundly negative impact on your physical health. It can lead to heart or breathing irregularities and even weaken your immune system, leaving you at risk for other viruses or illness.
It’s important to take some time out for yourself. Take a moment to really relax. When we’re always working, we’re always switched on, not allowing yourself to have a chance to recover and replenish your energy resources. Allow yourself some time in the evening for just you. Light a candle, brew some tea and take a bath. I recommend a warm bubble bath infused with essential oils to release built up tension and relax the muscles.
And remember to leave your work in the office and don’t take it home with you. Your work phone is for work, so switch it off when you’re not there. You have no obligation to answer calls out of work hours. You’re not getting paid for it so why should you overwork yourself. This will help you to take your mind off problems or issues in the office and take the time to focus on yourself and your personal life. It’s essential that you find a good work-life balance.
Fear is the predominant reason that we limit ourselves and hold ourselves back.
Fear of failure. Fear of humiliation. Fear of leaving our comfort zone. Well, I’ve news for you, nothing amazing ever happened in your comfort zone.
A boss does not allow fear to dictate their actions. But rather, rises to the fear and embraces the challenges that accompany it.
Here’s a great quote from the oh-so-wise, A Princess Diaries, which is perfectly fitting here.
“Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something is more important than fear; The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all.”
So, it’s normal to be scared. Everybody gets scared, nobody is truly fearless. It’s how we react to this fear that’s important.
Be scared, be absolutely, terrifyingly petrified. But be brave!
Control Your Emotions
Emotions. They’re human nature. You would be as cold as stone if you didn’t have them. Take a note from The Scarecrow from A Wizard of Oz, it doesn’t feel good to be unable to feel. But when making crucial decisions, attending meetings and instructing others, it’s important that you learn how to keep your emotions in check. Because emotions are messy things. A great practice for this is to remind yourself that, ‘you are not your emotions’. You experience your emotions, but they don’t govern who you are. So don’t let your emotions manipulate your decisions and interfere with your leadership.
Learn from Your Mistakes
You will never get anywhere in life if you don’t learn. And you will never learn if you don’t practice. And in order to practice, you must fail – so essentially, fail as often as you can.
Because if you think about it, without failure, how can you improve? And if you don’t improve, you won’t grow. And if you don’t grow, you won’t make it anywhere in life. So you have to keep trying, keep practicing and keep learning until it becomes habit. Because no matter how good you get, you can be better.
So don’t stress or worry about your mistakes, instead, look at them as learning curves. Grow from your mess ups. You’ll never grow up if you don’t blow up once or twice.
Ever heard of professional hubris? It’s what can happen when you are young, talented and you’ve never been turned down, so of course you’re going to think you are God’s gift to [insert your profession here]. Yes, you may be amazing at your job, but you are still going to make mistakes and learn a lot along the way. You should never feel like your learning days are behind you. Within the first three years out of college, your professional skills will likely quadruple. That is, as long as you are open to learning and accept that there is always some way you can improve.
Don’t back down
Ok, so you’re not always going to be right, no one is and that’s OK. We’re only human after all. And it’s an admirable trait to be able to admit when you’re wrong. But when you feel in your gut that you’re right, or if you feel passionate or strongly about a project, it’s important that you don’t back down – as long as you’re not harming anyone of course.
A true boss stands up for what they believe in, even when no one’s on their side. You don’t back down in the face of adversity. You’re no pushover and you back yourself above anyone!